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I don't want to discuss the latest SPN ep here, so please don't. I'm turn my mind to other things.
What I would like to discuss is sex.
It's something I've liked about Supernatural. It's been, generally, pretty low on the on-screen sex. And that makes me pretty happy.
Yes, I know that Dean was having sex over the past couple seasons. But the last memorable actual sex scene that I remember is Sam/Madison from Heart (2.17). We've known that Dean's been having sex, but we haven't been given the visuals and it has not been part of the plot.
I really liked that.
I am like it when the story isn't about sex and romance. My life isn't about sex and romance. My life isn't about hunting demons, either, but I have a lot of trouble relating to stories where the entire focus is sex and romance. Hell, in high school I didn't get it and I still don't get it today.
I know I've got a low sex drive, that's no secret. I don't expect every character to be asexual or have a low sex drive (although, powers that be, it'd be AWESOME to see that), but I would be bothered to meet people in real life whose entire lives were based on sex and romance. People have families and friends and hobbies and careers. Let's see that.
I'm not saying I hate shows (or books) that have a lot of sex. I love Torchwood, for example. And I adore Captain Jack Harkness. However, even Captain Jack, my favorite onscreen slut, has aspirations outside of getting into people's pants.
I hate going to the bookstore and seeing books, especially those marketed at women in my demographic, based solely on romance. I get bored when I turn on the TV and find endless romance. Romance movies don't really do it for me.
Perhaps someone could explain this appeal to me?
What I would like to discuss is sex.
It's something I've liked about Supernatural. It's been, generally, pretty low on the on-screen sex. And that makes me pretty happy.
Yes, I know that Dean was having sex over the past couple seasons. But the last memorable actual sex scene that I remember is Sam/Madison from Heart (2.17). We've known that Dean's been having sex, but we haven't been given the visuals and it has not been part of the plot.
I really liked that.
I am like it when the story isn't about sex and romance. My life isn't about sex and romance. My life isn't about hunting demons, either, but I have a lot of trouble relating to stories where the entire focus is sex and romance. Hell, in high school I didn't get it and I still don't get it today.
I know I've got a low sex drive, that's no secret. I don't expect every character to be asexual or have a low sex drive (although, powers that be, it'd be AWESOME to see that), but I would be bothered to meet people in real life whose entire lives were based on sex and romance. People have families and friends and hobbies and careers. Let's see that.
I'm not saying I hate shows (or books) that have a lot of sex. I love Torchwood, for example. And I adore Captain Jack Harkness. However, even Captain Jack, my favorite onscreen slut, has aspirations outside of getting into people's pants.
I hate going to the bookstore and seeing books, especially those marketed at women in my demographic, based solely on romance. I get bored when I turn on the TV and find endless romance. Romance movies don't really do it for me.
Perhaps someone could explain this appeal to me?
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The reason romance does so well is because it's escapist, and there's a lot about the bored housewife dynamic that plays into it. Of course, this is for novels. I think it's because romance is the most readily accessible fantasy for women, as opposed to being a hero or having a successful career (it's also more entertaining than most of women's fantasies, since we're largely barred from heroism and so on, though it's changing).
I'm forgetting the anthropologist who did research on romance novel audiences (there's a couple of her books in Canaday), but you might want to look up Loving with a Vengeance in the library. If I recall correctly, it covers the topic of why women go for romance and why we're so geared toward it as opposed to having it tacked onto our primary fantasies (ala male mass-produced fantasies).