Well, I theoretically also live in a GLBTQ Mecca, but I find I get flack from the gay community (both men and women). Less so at school, which is totally a mecca of all things queer, but definitely at home where I spend a lot of time either in the closet or with people who identify as homosexual. I'm not sure how hurtful comments like, "Well, you can pass" or "Oh, he [the bisexual guy over there] is just using people. He's really just gay" are.
And on the internet. I've heard people say, "On the internet everyone's bisexual" which is a pile of stinking BS. I've come across more open hostility on the tubes than anywhere else. This rant was actually sparked by two things: a terrible stinking pile of anti-bisexual queer theory and someone (admittedly a troll) who was trying to gauge the biphobic sentiments over at lesbian. While I don't agree with said person's tactics, some of the gay communities here on LJ have been known for their vitriolic bi-hostile comments.
I haven't come out to folks at home yet, as it is Irish-Catholic, but I wish to when I am no longer living on their roof. But the best, most heart warming reaction I've had yet was from my uncle the Catholic priest. Rather than the expected reaction (he first started seminary before Vatican II) when he mistook a close friend for a girlfriend, he wanted to get to know her and asked why I didn't bring her around more often. It was awkward, but warming nonetheless.
The OED, sadly, defines queer as homosexual. It defines queer theory thusly: queer theory n. (also with capital initials) orig. U.S. an approach to social and cultural study which seeks to challenge or deconstruct traditional ideas of sexuality and gender, esp. the acceptance of heterosexuality as normative and the perception of a rigid dichotomy of male and female traits. I will be a happy tide chaser when queer is someone who does not subscribe to traditional ideas of sexuality and gender.
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Re: Verbose is an aspiration, not an insult.....
Date: 2008-04-08 11:48 pm (UTC)And on the internet. I've heard people say, "On the internet everyone's bisexual" which is a pile of stinking BS. I've come across more open hostility on the tubes than anywhere else. This rant was actually sparked by two things: a terrible stinking pile of anti-bisexual queer theory and someone (admittedly a troll) who was trying to gauge the biphobic sentiments over at
I haven't come out to folks at home yet, as it is Irish-Catholic, but I wish to when I am no longer living on their roof. But the best, most heart warming reaction I've had yet was from my uncle the Catholic priest. Rather than the expected reaction (he first started seminary before Vatican II) when he mistook a close friend for a girlfriend, he wanted to get to know her and asked why I didn't bring her around more often. It was awkward, but warming nonetheless.
The OED, sadly, defines queer as homosexual. It defines queer theory thusly: queer theory n. (also with capital initials) orig. U.S. an approach to social and cultural study which seeks to challenge or deconstruct traditional ideas of sexuality and gender, esp. the acceptance of heterosexuality as normative and the perception of a rigid dichotomy of male and female traits. I will be a happy tide chaser when queer is someone who does not subscribe to traditional ideas of sexuality and gender.