However, I struggled with this for years. It wasn't that I wasn't attracted to men and women; I was. It was that I knew there was a word for that - bisexual - but I also knew, quite clearly, that I wasn't bisexual. I am monogamous. I have a low sex drive.

I can really, really relate to that.

"I'm bi."

"..."

"What?"

"You're married."

"Yeah."

"So you cheat on your husband?"

"No. I'm monogamous."

"But you just said you're bi."

*headdesk*

I usually resort to the "If God-forbid something happens to my husband I'd have an equal chance of dating men and woman" which is really woefully inadequate, but at least seems a step up from the above that people seem to be able to get. Unfortunately some stick to the "you really can't be bi because you are married" camp.

Somehow "well, you're still straight even when you aren't currently dating someone or having sex, right" bit doesn't seem to work most of the time. It is like, straight/heterosexual/gay/lesbian/homosexual all equal identity and bisexual equals an action. Which is so wrong.